Nowadays my heart has become like a mixed bag of emotions, one moment I am happy for no reason and the very next moment I get reminded of something sad & my heart starts to cry. I am not sure which one of it to write about.
The happy stuff- coz c’mon lets accept it, that’s what everyone likes to read. Sad, depressing stuff, no one cares about. Everyone has enough of it in their own lives. But, the sad depressing stuff is what you really want to write about. Writing helps you get over it, atleast that’s what they say. Pen down everything in your mind and heart, abuse if u want to, and move on. I am not the one to give advice on what to do when you are sad, but then I can share a few things which make me feel better.
Talk to a friend
Stop telling yourself that you are a loner, you don’t like sharing stuff. It’s all bullshit. Come back from your ego trip and tell someone everything. Coz you know you want to. Be brave enough to say it. Trust me it helps!
Listen to music
Don’t waste time making a playlist. Randomly select all and play. Or tune in to the radio. You’ll be surprised how effective it is! And please for the love of God, don’t listen to sad songs. The world has not come to an end! Don’t force yourself to be sad. Listen to happy cheerful songs.
Get Drenched
Before global warming hits us full on; consider yourself lucky every time it rains! Stop cribbing about the traffic jams and water logging. Be that kid again. Nature has its own way of attracting your attention. The loud rumbling of the clouds is them scolding you to switch off your damn AC, pull down your window, take your head out of the car and enjoy the rain drops fall on your face! Think about your childhood friend, the dance you had together, the puddles you jumped in, the scolding you got from your mom when you went back home, all covered in mud. Think about the walk you had with your love and the kiss that followed!
Watch something funny
Friends, Big Bang Theory, Modern Family, there all infinite series and movies willing to help you get out of our sad state! Trust them. I guarantee it won’t take more than 2-3 episodes or 1 movie at best to make you feel better.
STOP IT
And at last STOP telling yourself you are sad. Don’t feel guilty if you smile! You have the right to feel whatever you want. Have your remote in your own hand! And ya always remember no one is worth making you sad! You are the boss of you! Give yourself a chance!
And, finally, I get to make the title of this post, something I truly believe in! 😉
niyati, i loved the title and especially after reading the last line. the photographs are charming and real and pretty, the featured one and the flowers in their pots and cans niiiice. the bad days, the dark feelings… i guess the more we can face them and work out any way we can, or just leave them be and take a ride some place else, the more interesting this life, gets you to unknown never dreamed of places also sometimes, despair. very nice meander through the feelings. thanks.
Thanks a lot for appreciating the post and pics! Its good to share random thoughts with friends like you. Happiness and sadness both are a part of life, but we always care to give dark times much more importance than they are worth of. Key is to have patience and believe in ‘this too shall pass’! Happy Thoughts! 🙂
What a wonderful post Niyati. I loved it. And I would second every point up there. The radio is my fav too (I am quite lazy to make a playlist anyway :-D) But the thrill of not knowing what the next song is, the joy of hearing a fav song after a long time, is something else.
And I am yearning to make a paper boat the next time it rains :-D.
The comedies, however crazy, are so much good for the mental health compared to the soaps, however elegantly they might have been packaged. I would recommend a comedy episode or a movie, atleast once daily.
And exactly, you are the boss of you. ‘Be your own windkeeper Rachel’ 😀 That was a silly episode, but there was so much to learn in there.
Great title. As someone said, live in the present, for that’s your gift.
Thanks again, Niyati. 🙂
Hey! Thanks for liking the post 🙂 and great to know that you are a friends’ fan too!! ‘A smile is the most contagious thing’ as they say! And music definitely lifts up the spirit.
Today ,the world changes so fast ,we find out the news from all corners in a jiffy ,I agree ,our moods change so fast especially after menopause ,as you can feel hot and cold in a couple of seconds ,I agree that being positive will help you through all the downs in your life ,and enjoy your own company if you are happy with yourself ,and know you are doing the right thing ,,you shown that today we need instant gratification. ,but for me reading brings back my focus. Nothing like reading aa good book sitting in your backyard watch nature create its magic ,go on long walks in the country. Or we have famous dunes fight on Lake Michigan we go there at sunset ,it’s amazing ,I find that you guys seem to like the same stuff I do
Thanks Archana! I love walking and reading too! good that you pointed it out.. They definitely are one of the greatest stress busters ever 🙂 We should just try to keep ourselves shunned from all the negativity around and think & do happy things.